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The Superpowers of Solitude: Overcoming the Pandemic of Loneliness

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Introduction:

Ego and Self

 

My story: “IT is Eternally Here and Now, I Am Me, and IT will ALWAYS be bigger than Me” 

-Upaya

 

Imagine yourself in the center of a vast, intricate spider web. Each strand represents your connection to the world, and you are at the very heart of IT. The 'Ego,' is the one standing at the center of your unique universe, the one reading and judging this slow start to the article with incredulity. Simultaneously, you are also a part of the whole web, intricately woven into the grand tapestry of existence — the 'Self.'

 

Laying between these two perspectives is the essence of our identity and together they form our understanding of the world. The ego is the bastion of subjectivity and it’s critical to our sense of individuality. From infancy, we're schooled to view ourselves as separate entities, distinct from others. This ego-centric perspective nurtures our ability to assert ourselves, to protect our boundaries, and ultimately, to survive in a complex world, at least a lot longer than we would otherwise.

 

However, the ego-centric perspective has its drawbacks. Though it allows us to differentiate ourselves from others, it can also instill feelings of isolation, loneliness, and a sense of being trapped within our minds. Consider the ego as a castle — it provides safety, yet limits our perception of the world beyond its walls. These walls, while safeguarding us from external threats, also hinder our vision, inhibiting our complete engagement with our surroundings.

 

Our journey is centered on guiding you through the intricacies of self and perspective, to empower you to grapple with loneliness via introspection and a perspective shift. I'm no politician preaching systemic overhauls, I’m just a Fool offering instruments for individual growth. We're striving for personal empowerment here, intending to place the keys to self-discovery and growth in your hands, not in the hands of an abstract society. In this light, leaning on the Stoics, we'll navigate the elements outside our control by focusing on our responses to them — after all, that's what truly counts.

 

Our approach does not dismiss the complexities of loneliness. Indeed, we acknowledge that its triggers are multifaceted, ranging from internal thought patterns to external socioeconomic factors. But we maintain that the heart of the solution is profoundly simple, universally applicable, and corroborated by the Sages from every human culture throughout history. With this reorientation of perspective, we're not just working to address loneliness but also enabling you to deepen your understanding of your interconnected existence itself. However, to fully appreciate this transformative potential we must first understand the pervasive impact of loneliness on our society and ourselves.

 

 

The Pandemic of Loneliness

 

Emerging from the trials of the global health crisis, we find ourselves forced to confront a long-standing problem that has been silently taking hold long before Corona—the Pandemic of Loneliness. This issue was quietly growing beneath the rhythm of our bustling world unnoticed, or at least ignored and repressed, until the crisis stripped away our distractions, revealing the paradoxical crisis of our shared isolation.

 

This pandemic of loneliness knows no borders. It's not exclusive to particular demographics or confined by geographic limitations. It resonates across continents, cultures, and societies, cutting through age demographics, socio-economic divisions, and social circles, resonating in the heart of humanity itself.

 

The scale and depth of this loneliness pandemic are astonishing. A rising number of individuals worldwide, regardless of their age, express feelings of deep-seated loneliness. From teenagers grappling with self-esteem issues and peer acceptance to the elderly who often experience isolation due to physical constraints or loss of companionship, loneliness knows no bounds.

 

Contrary to common perception, wealth, fame, or even a large group of friends does not provide immunity against loneliness. It's a striking misconception that external circumstances can shield one from the emotional pain that loneliness can inflict. In reality, individuals from all walks of life, whether rich or poor, celebrated or anonymous, socially active or reclusive, can feel the stark emptiness and disconnection that stems from loneliness.

 

Various experts from diverse fields have offered insights into loneliness, each enhancing our understanding, yet falling short of providing a comprehensive view.

 

Psychologists, specifically from the Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) realm, have made profound strides in understanding the interplay of thoughts, feelings, and behaviors in loneliness. They highlight how internal conscious thoughts and perceptions can lead to feelings of loneliness and social withdrawal. However, this approach, while invaluable, is sometimes so hyper-focused on individual psychology that it may fail to help the individual adequately consider and contextualize the external factors contributing their internal behavioral patterns.

 

Sociologists provide an essential lens on loneliness, shedding light on the impact of societal structures such as urbanization, work-life imbalance, and the growth of social media. These structures, despite their intended purpose of fostering connectivity, can paradoxically contribute to feelings of isolation. Sociological insights are instrumental in shaping organizational and policy decisions that address the broader societal implications of loneliness. All this being said, from an individual growth standpoint, the sociological perspective may seem detached at times, as it doesn't always acknowledge an individual's feelings of isolation and powerlessness within society. It's important to recognize that a person experiencing loneliness may not feel empowered to single-handedly change the fundamental structures and institutions that contribute to their sense of isolation.

 

Existential philosophers such as Søren Kierkegaard and Jean-Paul Sartre have made significant contributions to our understanding of solitude and loneliness. They make a distinction between "being alone," which is a physical and observable condition, and "feeling lonely," which is a subjective and emotional state. For Kierkegaard, solitude was a prerequisite for self-discovery and an essential state for developing an authentic relationship with oneself and with God. Sartre, on the other hand, famously asserted that "Hell is other people," highlighting the idea that our interactions with others often impose on us a certain version of ourselves that may not align with our authentic self. However, while these philosophical insights are deeply profound and even pave the way for the solitude section that is to come later, they often exist at a level of abstraction that can make them difficult for most people to comprehend, let alone apply in a practical manner.

 

Medical and neuroscience research have made significant strides in revealing the physiological impact of loneliness, linking it to numerous health issues. This knowledge is vital and can be beneficial in treating the symptoms of loneliness-induced conditions. However, the field, particularly pharmaceutical establishments, might at times focus excessively on treating symptoms (such as depression) through cause-and-effect relationships, neglecting the necessity of addressing the existential crisis driving the loneliness. Treating a serotonin imbalance, for instance, addresses a symptom but may fail to tackle the underlying loneliness causing the depression.

 

Lastly, positive psychology provides a promising approach, viewing loneliness as a potential catalyst for positive change. Early pioneers in this field have brought forth profound insights into self-awareness, resilience, and empathy. However, contemporary researchers sometimes overemphasize the criticism of their predecessors' methods, undermining their breakthroughs, instead of building upon these insights with more rigorous studies.

 

Ego-Centric Default and Loneliness

 

The ego-centric perspective, heavily influenced by western cultural norms, often isolates us, trapping us within our own walls. In Western society, there is an inherent lean towards individualism. This cultural inclination is often applauded for promoting autonomy and innovation, and indeed plays a vital role in our personal development and survival, however it is also important to recognize how it can also isolate us from the vast web of interconnection that permeates our existence. The problem arises when this egocentric worldview infiltrates our perception of self and identity. After all, if we view ourselves as the center, as the primary subject, it’s easy to fall into the trap of feeling alone in a vast, impersonal universe. The ego acts as a fortress, insulating us from the world and thereby breeding a sense of isolation. However, the self-centric perspective offers a broader view. It allows us to see ourselves as part of a larger whole, interconnected with others and the world around us.

 

Embarking on the journey towards understanding the roots of our 'modern metaphysical pandemic of loneliness' may initially sound daunting, as if requiring the specialist knowledge of a PhD in continental philosophy or comparative religions. However, rest assured, the key to unraveling this seemingly complex issue s actually as simple as elementary school grammar.

 

Our language structure influences our identity and conception of self. In English, the subject, the 'I', is often privileged. This focus on 'I' reinforces an individualistic perspective where we see ourselves as separate entities. But what if we could shift our perspective to see ourselves as 'objects', or the 'Me'?

 

This idea isn't as far-fetched as it might seem. The Sapir-Whorf hypothesis, a linguistic theory, posits that the structure of a language can influence or shape the worldview of its speakers. Although the stronger form of this hypothesis, suggesting that language determines thought, has been largely debunked, the softer version still holds merit. This soft version suggests that language influences our perceptions and thoughts.

 

For instance, think about how the language of mathematics, with its symbols and structures, opens up a whole new world of understanding. We couldn't possibly grasp the concept of calculus without this language.

 

Similarly, while the linguistic transition from 'I’ to ‘Me’ might seem trivial, it uncovers a profound shift in perspective. This shift moves us from the isolation of the ego to the interconnectedness of the self. Finding the self, the 'Me', paves the way to the realization that everyone else is 'Me' too.

 

To get our feet firmly on the ground again, consider the educational paradigm of a “subject” like Mathematics. When you were in math class, you might have spoken in English, or another language, but the grammar of that language is not what the teacher was concerned about; they were more interested in your understanding and application of mathematical concepts.

 

In this scenario, the ‘subject’ - Mathematics - is the principal focus, the rest, including the language used, serves primarily to elucidate and facilitate the understanding of this central subject. This is much like how our ego operates, viewing itself as the principal subject of life and everything else as secondary or peripheral.

 

Consider an alternate perspective, one that positions us not as a subject but as an object. An 'object' exists in relation to other entities. It shares a web of relationships with its surroundings, much like a tree in a forest. A tree does not exist in isolation; it exists in a mutualistic relationship with the soil, air, and other trees. When we view ourselves as 'objects', we acknowledge our interconnected existence within a larger environment.

The Journey from

Ego to Self

 

"I am the Devil, but God is Me"  -Upaya

 

The journey from the ego to the self is a transformative process, inviting us to navigate the depths of our inner world, and to understand ourselves beyond the constructed walls of the ego. It demands courage and a willingness to challenge our deeply ingrained beliefs about ourselves and the world. It requires us to see beyond the surface, to acknowledge our interconnectedness, and to embrace a holistic sense of self.

 

To elucidate, let's consider the sentence “I am talking” - a self-contained, isolated expression centered around the "I", the ego. Here, the context is irrelevant. It doesn't matter whether the speaker is addressing an audience or talking into a wet blanket - the sentence stands independent of its environment. This subjectivity, a characteristic feature of ego-based perspectives, creates a fortress of separation between the individual and the world.

 

Conversely, the sentence, “Allow Me to talk” cannot stand alone. It necessitates an external entity, an audience, implicitly including the environment in the equation. There is an implied [Will you please] or [I demand that you] allow Me to talk. The "Me" here is seen in relation to others, an object that exists in a shared context. This shift towards an object-based perspective is the pivot towards the self, acknowledging our inherent interconnectedness.

 

Diving deeper, we come across a Divine Sentence, “I Am Me”. This sentence reconciles the ego and the self, combining the subject and object into a single entity. The "I" and the "Me" merge into a profound realization of a unified self, which rests firmly on the Ground of ALL Being - "IT". This sentence, in its simplicity, carries a potent message - we are more than just isolated egos, we are selves intricately woven into the tapestry of existence.

 

Understanding this deeper perspective of existence necessitates an examination of the ego's role in human nature. The ego, acting as a protective mechanism, validates our individuality and separateness. It's an integral part of our identity, serving as a stepping stone towards the path of self-realization. It is not the enemy but a tool, and like all tools, it has its limitations.

 

 

The Alchemy of Solitude

 

As we begin our journey inward, we find the need to step into solitude to connect more deeply with others, like the caterpillar that disappears into a chrysalis, only to emerge as a butterfly. It doesn't transfigure amidst the bustle of the forest but in the solitude of its cocoon. It’s the same with our transition from ego to self: it thrives in solitude.

 

At this juncture, it's essential to consider the paradoxical role of solitude in fostering connection. The act of being alone, when perceived not as a state of loneliness but as a chance to be with oneself, can be empowering. This solitude is not about isolation but self-discovery. When we spend time in solitude, we learn to accept and love ourselves. We connect more deeply with our 'Me' or the interconnected self.

 

The divine sentence, "I am Me", can serve as an existential mantra for our journey towards self-realization. It offers a continual reminder of our interconnectedness and dual existence. In its simplicity, the sentence holds profound existential implications that can guide us towards a deeper understanding of ourselves and the world.

 

Interestingly, as we start to love ourselves and embrace our interconnectedness, we also become more capable of fostering connections with others. When we're comfortable with ourselves, we exude an energy that makes others enjoy our company. This paradox underscores the power of solitude: it's through our journey inwards, in the space of solitude, that we find our path outwards towards more profound connections.

 

However, the journey from ego to self is not a simple linear progression. It is a continual process of introspection, understanding, and acceptance of both our individual and interconnected selves. As we continue this journey, we grow more adept at recognizing and harmonizing the ego's power and limitations.

 

To better grasp this, let's look at Oscar Wilde's definition of a “bore” – One who deprives you of solitude without providing you with company. You might think about that one uncle who corners you at every family gathering to tell you about his model train collection. Or your neighbour who can't help but share a blow-by-blow account of her day, right down to the very last soup can on her grocery list. However let’s go back to the subject of Math. You see, the bore, much like a math textbook, is disinterested in your presence, fixated instead on its own subject. People often label math as 'boring', because it only cares about its own subject, making your ego irrelevant to it.

 

Yet, within that 'boredom', lies a powerful revelation. Just as drilling a hole is termed 'boring', so too can we use our attention to bore into our own being. Remember math class? Remember how "boring" it seemed as your teacher droned on and on about calculus or algebra? The subject of math was just being true to itself, not caring about your ego, but instead carrying on its monologue for the sake of its own integrity. Teachers even call these “boring” exercises “Math Drills’.

 

The process of drilling into the self in a similar way might seem like nothing more than a good way to bore yourself to death, but this process of boring into our own experiences can be medicinal, purifying our spirits and clearing our minds. When we meditate, we’re essentially boring a hole into our own subjective experience to peek inside. Like a drill bit, our attention spins, burrowing ever deeper. The Zen buddhists know exactly what I’m talking about, though if you try to ask them about Zazen directly, they’ll play as many games with you as I do.

 

Now, one may wonder why we only consider meditating when life becomes overly complicated. It's akin to escaping to a serene mountain when the everyday hustle becomes unbearable. But this is where the magic of 'boring' becomes evident. As we bore deeper into our subjective experiences, we discover our most profound 'Self'. It is an empty 'Me' - the primordial observer and actor, unblemished by particular experiences or contexts.

 

“It requires the greatest art to be simple.” -Jung

This profound truth may elude plain prose, and I'm no poet to dress it up for a general audience. Yet, it's something to be experienced firsthand. Delve deep, discover the 'Me' in its bare form, and you'll witness a transformation. You'll see that this 'Me' is the Self, the Self becomes every ego, and every ego “becomes” from this same Self.

 

Such an inner journey can make us more 'interesting'. Interesting, derived from Latin 'inter' (between) and 'esse' (to be), denotes a state of being in between. When we become the object and others become subjects, we turn into "The Most Interesting Man in the World". We discover an empty core that volunteers for experience and connection, and it forces us to admit that we want to be in the Here and Now, and to cherish all of experiences, from the transcendent, to the mundane, and even the tragic. Embracing life in its entirety, not just the 'pleasurable' bits, we transition from the frequently "feeling stuck and lonely,” to “choosing to be with the Self” eternally.

 

From this perspective, solitude becomes a choice rather than an affliction. Loneliness dissipates because we're not just in the world, we ARE the world. We are all part of a vast network of experiences, and when we start to realize this, we become more willing to be part of the present moment, the here and now. We hunger for experiences and connection, we yearn to be a part of life.

 

Once you've uncovered this vast network that we are part of, the natural inclination is to pay attention to IT, thus bringing us back to 'Noticing', as discussed in our Vibin’ Like a Sage article. The more we notice, the deeper our understanding of the interconnectedness of everything becomes. And it all begins with that seemingly dull, yet profoundly transformative journey into the self.

 

 

The Power of Perspective: The Three Superpowers of Solitude

 

Having emerged from the cocoon of solitude into the vast interconnected network of existence, having found the 'Me' that is an integral part of the 'IT’, the next natural step is to pay attention to it all, thus bringing us to 'Noticing'.

 

'Noticing', echoing the Buddhist practice of 'Right View', is not so much an art or skill to be mastered, but a process of unlearning and shedding the layers of preconceived notions, judgments, and comparisons that veil our true perceptions. It requires us to be fully present in our inner and outer worlds, observing without interpreting. As we embrace 'Noticing', it gently dissolves these layers, revealing the three superpowers in their true essence. It's through this process of unlearning and pure observation that we uncover their profound nature, moving us further along the journey of self-discovery.

 

Now, let's clarify. The term "superpowers" may incite images of fantastical feats and magic. It may arouse curiosity, skepticism, perhaps even ridicule. However, the real magic here is not in defying the laws of physics but in reshaping our understanding of ourselves and our place in the cosmos. Envision, for a moment, the emergence of these superpowers. Not from the realm of comics book, but abilities so potent, and so transformative, they could well be considered extraordinary.

The superpowers we will discuss reside within the realm of Human Nature, a layer of existence steeped in 100% imagination, as discussed in our Foolish Guide to Ontology and the transformation from the ego-centric to the self-centric perspective is nothing short of Alchemy that brings about the eternal life of the Here and Now.

 

However, it’s important for us to pause for a moment right here and point out that ALL magic done by the will of the ego is black magic. At best, it won’t work at all, and you will simply look foolish, at worst, it will work like a “monkey’s paw,” exploding like a hand grenade of "bad karma" that will bring about suffering for all involved. These superpowers are not meant to satisfy the ego or exploit others. They are tools that allow the Self to more fully engage with our external environment, and bring about what is in our “Self interest”, the increased wellbeing in the world we are a part of, as distinguished from “desires and passions of the ego." Beware of charlatans claiming such skills for ego-centric gains; they are venturing into a realm of deception where they will eventually be torn apart by the very passion they aroused in the mob. For further discussion on how charlatans can exploit these superpowers as "Liminoid Experiences", see our article "Spotting the Genuine 'Fake Gurus' Among the Real Charlatans". Rather, these superpowers emerge from the deep well of our inherent human nature, fostering profound connections and insights beyond the constraints of the ego.

 

 

The First Superpower: Reading Minds

 

The allure of 'Reading Minds', our first superpower, is undeniable. Yet, when the phrase is mentioned, images of telepathy or supernatural abilities often cloud the mind. To dispel these misconceptions, let's ground ourselves in a practice that's not only attainable but profoundly transformative: 'Just Listening'.

 

Indigenous cultures, rich in their oral traditions and deeply attuned to the rhythms of nature, exemplify this art form. 'Just Listening' isn't about hearing words, but absorbing their essence, free from the distortions of prejudice and preconceived notions. As we cultivate 'Noticing', we learn to apply 'Just Listening' not just to the words of others, but to our own inner dialogues too. This is the true essence of 'Reading Minds'.

 

“If you say ‘oh yes, I agree with you, I’ve heard this before’ … or you say ‘you are saying something new which is impossible’… you’re no longer Listening”  -Murti

However, to fully grasp the profundity of this superpower, we must appreciate three key points. Firstly, 'Reading Minds' demands a genuine, disinterested curiosity about what someone else is thinking. It's not about manipulating or controlling the other person; it's about understanding them. This curiosity should be deep and sincere, untainted by the ego's desire for power or superiority.

 

Secondly, we must embrace the paradox that while 'Reading Minds' is a tantalizing concept, it is, in fact, impossible to truly know another's thoughts with 100% certainty. This awareness is essential as it breeds humility, curiosity, and empathy. It nudges us to converse, to ask, to delve deeper into another's perspective. It's through these interactions that we piece together a deeper understanding, all the while acknowledging the inherent mystery that lingers.

 

Finally, the most profound aspect of 'Reading Minds' is the journey inward. It involves peeling back the layers of our own consciousness, noticing how context, emotions, and past experiences shape our thoughts and behaviors. By extending this understanding to others, we realize that, just like us, they are influenced by their unique set of circumstances and experiences.

 

"The main trick to reading everyone else's mind is just figuring out how to read your own"  -Upaya

 

To illustrate, consider a common experience: a group of friends witness an event, a shared moment. One of them, sensing the collective mood, cracks a joke, instinctively knowing that everyone was on the same wavelength. It's not telepathy, but a deep understanding of shared experience, a keen 'reading' of the situation and the mood. Here, 'Reading Minds' fosters a connection that words often fail to describe.

 

By treating 'Reading Minds' as a superpower of connection rather than a supernatural ability, we deepen our bonds with others and enhance our self-understanding. It doesn't defy natural laws, nor does it appeal to the ego's desire for power or dominance. Instead, it gently nudges us towards a deeper appreciation of the interconnected nature of our existences, strengthening our empathy and promoting a more authentic and understanding way of relating with others.

 

The Second Superpower: Speaking for God

 

The second superpower, 'Speaking for God', can often be misconstrued as asserting divine authority or a claim of celestial endorsement. However, this superpower isn’t about asserting infallibility or casting a divine aura. Instead, it's about expressing one's innermost perspective with authenticity, a viewpoint that reverberates within each one of us, reflecting the unblemished voice of 'Me', the Self.

 

This power is about 'Just Saying' – expressing what we deeply believe with sincerity and humility, recognizing that our voice is merely an embodiment of our personal experiences and insights. It doesn’t aim to speak for others, it doesn't assert universal validity. Yet, paradoxically, this very humility, this refusal to claim absolute authority, often lends such expressions a surprising weight and universality.

 

Reflect on the magnetic appeal of Martin Luther King Jr. During his legendary "I Have a Dream" speech, he shared his personal vision of an equitable world, a vision cultivated from his experiences and convictions. His words weren’t authoritative pronouncements but impassioned aspirations, a heartfelt plea for a better world. It wasn’t the biblical verses that etched the speech in our collective memory; it was King's unadulterated vision that resonated with the 'Me' within each listener, awakening a universal longing for justice and equality. It wasn't just King speaking; it was the voice of the Self, echoing through him.

 

Now, let's ground this concept in a more everyday scenario. Imagine a group of friends considering a mischievous escapade that could potentially land them in trouble. Amidst the contagious excitement and peer pressure, one friend harbors a deep-seated unease. Motivated by this internal unrest, they find the courage to voice their concern, "this doesn't seem like a good idea to me... Just Saying."

 

In that moment, they're not enforcing dominance or claiming moral superiority. They're merely sharing their viewpoint, their interpretation of the situation. It's not a command; it's a contribution, an invitation for the others to consider an alternative perspective. Yet, the profound sincerity of this 'Just Saying' moment often carries a surprising weight, compelling the others to pause and reconsider.

 

That's 'Speaking for God' in action. It's the articulation of the 'Me' that forms part of the greater 'IT'. It's the bravery to share your personal understanding, without assuming authority over others. And in doing so, you allow the Self to speak through you, resonating with the Self in others. It’s when our ego gets out of the way and permits the Self to express its Vision, a Vision that others can confirm with their own authority if they choose to do so. These expressions then become a testament to our shared humanity, a connection that binds us in our mutual pursuit of understanding and empathy. Through 'Noticing', we can nurture this superpower, articulating our insights in a manner that doesn’t just conform with others, but resonates with the deepest parts of ourselves.

 

 

The Third Superpower: Floating 2 Inches off The Ground

 

The final superpower, 'Floating 2 Inches off the Ground', might bring to mind visions of levitating saints or Buddhist Bodhisattvas defying gravity. In reality, however, it's less about physically rising above the earth and more about cultivating a profound connection with it. It might sound paradoxical, but the illusion of 'floating' is actually borne from a deeper grounding.

 

This is best illustrated by the grace of a ballet dancer, whose leaps and pirouettes create an illusion of weightlessness, almost as if she's floating. Yet, her seeming defiance of gravity is made possible by her exceptional grounding, her mastery of the steps before and after the leap. She knows the stage like the back of her hand, feels the rhythm of the music in her bones, and her body aligns with these elements in a fluid dance. This isn't achieved through conscious, rigid control. Instead, her ego steps back, letting the 'Self' slip into the rhythm, syncing with the music, the stage, the moment.

 

This 'superpower', then, is not an act of defiance against the natural order, but a supreme act of harmony with it. It embodies 'Just Doing', a concept resonant with the Taoist principle of Wu Wei, which translates to 'effortless action' or 'action without action'. 'Just Doing' is about immersing oneself fully in the flow of life, aligning actions so intuitively with circumstances that it almost seems magical.

 

In modern terms, we might liken 'Floating 2 Inches off the Ground' to achieving a 'flow state'. The concept of flow refers to a state of total immersion in an activity, where the ego falls away, and actions follow seamlessly from one to the next. It's a state of heightened focus and enjoyment in the process of the activity. And like our superpower, flow states are associated with optimal performance and the sensation of effortless action.

 

It's in this context that the term 'grace’ connects to the idea of 'fitting into place'. To be graceful is to move in such a way that every action fits perfectly into the flow of events. It's a state of being where the individual becomes so attuned to their environment that every move seems precisely timed and executed, every response perfectly fitting.

 

The idea of 'Floating 2 Inches off the Ground', then, is a metaphor for this state of supreme grace. It suggests a mode of being where we're so immersed in the flow of life that we appear to transcend the usual clunkiness of human action. Our moves become fluid and effortless, giving the illusion of defying gravity. And all this begins with a strong grounding, both in the physical sense and in the metaphysical 'ground of being' or 'IT'.

 

Contrary to what many believe, self-control doesn't mean the ego achieving total dominance over the self. Rather, it involves the ego submitting to the self, allowing the self to steer the course. This relinquishing of control is not a loss, but a liberation. It allows us to tap into the wellspring of intuition and spontaneous action that is the hallmark of 'Just Doing'. When the self is at the helm, navigating the waves of life becomes a seamless, graceful dance, a ballet of existence that creates the illusion of 'Floating 2 Inches off the Ground'.

 

Thus, the practice of 'Noticing' serves as the common thread weaving together these three superpowers. It's a guiding compass, pointing us towards a holistic perspective, where the ego-centric "I" transitions to the interconnected "Me".

 

 

Conclusion

 

This journey from ego to self, armed with the practice of 'Noticing' and the three superpowers, opens the doorway to a more holistic understanding of self and our relationship with the world. It doesn't merely help us cope with the pandemic of loneliness; it presents a transformative perspective, allowing us to transcend isolation, fostering a profound sense of interconnectedness. The stern tone of this article serves a purpose; it holds the conviction that despite the complex and multifaceted nature of loneliness, at its core, it is profoundly simple. A shift in perspective, from the isolated 'I' to the interconnected 'Me', reveals the profound simplicity of overcoming loneliness, heralding a journey towards wholeness and unity.

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